If you are not able to get blacks or latinos on board I don't necessarily think that it's a given that same sex 'marriage' (ssm)  is going to pass. Elton John was well aware that there could be a frightening backlash.

The whole idea of 'marriage' only became an issue about five years ago and I'd be very interested to see who gave it legs, because prior to that legally recognized 'domestic partnerships' was the VERY VERY specific relationship that gays were vocal about wanting legally. Then ACLU and I believe divorce attorneys (never behind in finding new lawsuits to pursue and given the RELATIVE rarity of gay monogamy, it's a gold mine for them)  got on board and gays who had been very sane and balanced suddenly found that they HAD to have the ceremony 'marriage'.

Also very strange is how many straight people are dismayed that their gay friends view them as traitors unless they support ssm, but do not extend reciprocal respect when it comes to the question of the vulnerability of organized Judeo Christianity.  Since 3 states have already proven conclusively that schools, churches and adoption agencies will be VERY vulnerable to lawyers hostile to religion, it's very dangerous for gays to keep saying that all they want is to be left alone, given that it's now evident and proven that without the most air tight (virtually impossible) of language, the ssm will prove irreversibly harmful to organized religions, something that gays have continually said would not be an issue.

I have gay friends who having read the articles I've shown them, where parents and adoption agencies and churches have come under attack and lost, because of laws in NJ and MA, do afford me respect and understand why I tell them that I want them happy but I cannot support 'marriage'.

Gays need to understand that a very small but incredibly aggressive faction behind this movement is intent upon using gays to eradicate organized religion. I don't think most gays are even aware that they've been used as pawns because most have been so incited by these rabid folks inside the movement that they cannot even remember that the people that they are condemning and shrieking at were only five years ago pretty much in accord with them for domestic partners.

The activists have overreached and I really do believe that most rational gays found themselves on the groundswell. Now, since they are only 2% of the population, we are likely to see a pushback. I think people like Elton John see this and have been trying to subtly warn gays.  They count on younger people being in their corner but they don't realize that this small aggressive group is all too likely to go too far and alienate the people who are now supporting SSM.